input from me to my friend the photographer.
remember, what you see in your life is the raw footage.
what you see of everyone else’s is their highlight reel.
from what i can tell, everyone that has had you do their photography has loved the results, and they are the ones that matter.
i know a *lot* of professional level photographers.
two of them will tell you point blank they aren’t.
i disagree of course, but you cannot make someone believe in themselves.
one of them took my profile picture.
i have lost a lot of “friends” because i quit making and taking excuses for full grown adults, and i quit letting stupid slide.
it does make life a lot quieter though. 🙂
it’s demoralizing when you lose someone as a friend because you’re tired of their horribly behaved children, their constant self inflicted crisis-of-the-week, their lying, cheating, stealing, drama, whatever. actions have consequences.
if someone steals from, and lies to, the person that always had their back, and they stop, that’s the consequence.
you know what the consequences of being a bad photographer are?
people don’t pay you to take pictures.
100 good books on the subject and 10,000 hours of practice, and it’s really really hard to suck at whatever it is your trying to learn.
you have an eye for it.
so that gets you farther, faster.
some people may say it’s a waste of time.
but it’s *your* life. not theirs.
your two billion seconds.
as long as you’re making your own way, (and not living on the charity of others), your kids are reasonably clean, reasonably well fed, vaccinated, not dressed in rags, are being educated to the highest standard you can afford, and you are not bending the law too much, it’s none of anyone else’s business what you are doing with your life.
in many cases, you can just consider the source.
*no one* in your family tree has their own houses in order to. on any level, be giving you advice on anything, period, ever.
someone told me i was lucky the other day, because i had managed to convince a self rescuing princess i was worth keeping.
… think that through for a bit, then ask yourself if it was actually luck or not.
following my “hand up not hand out” policy, i’m going to ask every photographer i know what the best book on the subject is.
i am going to then buy it for you.
your side of this agreement is that you will read it cover to cover, and spend a year digesting it as time permits.
104 hours putting what you learned to use.
that’s 2 hours a weekend for a year.